Validation for Value VS Value of Validation

There is a spectrum of the type of validation that is toxic versus healthy.

External Toxic Validation includes seeking attention, people pleasing, self-centred intents to be accepted, valued and/or appreciated. This often leads to the individual compromising on their morals, values and principles for the sake of feeling worthy and valued.

It has become increasingly common for people to seek validation externally to feel valued rather than practicing internal validation for the sake of creating valuable connections.

Internal Healthy Validation involves genuinely practicing healthy boundaries in giving and receiving mutual respect, understanding through active listening, consideration in mindful communication, actions, reactions and decision making.

When you value yourself and others;

You validate their thoughts and feelings as much as your own even when you are working through disagreements or when in misalignment on something.

You can disagree on something and yet still be respectful, considerate and supportive of each others thoughts and feelings.

Practicing healthy validation of our own thoughts and feelings as well as other people’s allows us to be mindful and intentional with each other and validating one another in a healthy way.

Allowing mutual and reciprocal support, understanding, consideration and respect.

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